What does God think about marriage?
St Peter's Farnborough

God holds marriage in high regard. After all, it was His idea and right at the beginning of the Bible, we read that 'for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh' (Genesis 2:24)
 
 

Your Questions Answered

Is it alright to live together before getting married?

Whilst recognising that this is now widely accepted in society, St Peter's affirms the church's teaching that it is right to wait until you are married and that co-habitation is contrary to God's will. However, living together will not disqualify you from getting married at St Peter's, but the church passionately believes that God's way is the best way, and we want you to begin your married life together on the best possible footing.

Why get married in church?

Although the temptation is to regard marriage in church as 'doing it properly' you are specifically inviting God to bless your marriage and be part of your married life together. That is why it is about so much more than 'getting a piece of paper'.

Are divorcees allowed to get married at St Peter's?

At present, the laws governing marriage do not allow remarriage in church where the former partner is still alive, unless there are exceptional circumstances. Part of the reason for this is that the church has a responsibility to safeguard the understanding of marriage as a lifelong union.

There is a realisation however, that there are times when a marriage fails, and so we review each application in its own right. This may involve several interviews with the minister. Please contact one of the ministers if you would to know more.

We don't come to church/live in the parish. Can we still get married at St Peter's?

To get married at St Peter's you need a qualifying connection with the Parish. See form that has to be filled in (PDF format) If you are in any doubt, please contact the Parish Office. Download form 'here' - this form will open in a new window.

I am a student - can I still get married at St Peter's?

Yes provided you have a qualifying connection with St Peter's (see above)

What are 'banns' & why do I have to get them read?

Banns are part of the legal side of marriage. As the Church of England is the State Church, the minister also acts as the lawyer and performs both the legal and religious parts of the marriage.

The reading of 'banns' is a legal requirement and serves notice of intent of a couple wanting to get married. Banns are read out on 3 consecutive Sundays normally during the 9.30 service. The purpose of banns is to make sure that you are legally entitled to get married.

An alternative to Banns is to be married by Common Licence, usually when there is insufficient time for them to be called but you still must have a qualifying connection with the Parish.

How do we book a wedding at St Peter's?

Simply phone the Parish Office on 01252 513111 and we will take it from there!
 
 
St Peter's Parish Church, 60 Church Avenue, Farnborough, Hampshire, UK GU14 7AP - Tel +44 (0)1252 513111